a critical group

My site is starting to develop a following, but they seem to be a very undecided group.  Their faces are filled with questions.

going into marriage with a clear mind

An interesting study on the effects of oxytocin on mammals.  Makes a good argument against using pre-marital sex as a "test" before marriage.  http://www.oxytocin.org/oxy/wide.html  (This same page has an interesting link for "When Is It Best To Take Crack Cocaine?"  http://www.cocaine.org/)

Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse (http://ruthinstitute.org/) has written a book on the same subject you might want to check out:  "SMART SEX Finding Life Long Love in a Hook Up World"  http://jennifer-roback-morse.com/pages/catalog.html#